“Marriage in the Christian faith is an honourable thing, bed undefiled”, a reference from the Bible, according to Apostle Paul, in his letter to the Hebrews, Chapter 14:4 ” “But whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” It adds.
This has served as the basis for the conditioning and the beliefs system that informs the decision and methodology employed by the pious faith in conducting their lives as regards preparing intending couples for marriage.
Bed undefiled is upheld by the sect to mean abstaining from moral acts until they are both officially joined in a wedding in the church, receiving the blessings of their religious leader into holy matrimony.
Like most religious sects, the Christain faith upholds the belief that man must stay away from sin, leaving a holy life that is void of human error, and even if they do, they must seek forgiveness from God, who is the one that can forgive sins.
A marriage union was suspended on account of indulging in moral acts of sin by the Deeper Life Church, which was slated to hold on the 8th of June 2019.
Responding to the disciplinary action taken on the intending couples, after a false report that the couple’s wedding was placed on hold because they ate from the same plate, the church in a written statement, according to a News report by Legit News, denied the story.
“The church has a Marriage Committee that supervises marriage right from knowing the will of God to obtaining parents’ consent, marriage registration to a church wedding.
When the intending couples were told to go to Brass Region in Bayelsa state to obtain the man’s parents’ consent, they spent several days together before coming back to Yenagoa.
They slept on the same bed and engaged in moral acts which amounted to sin and against the marriage process of the Church. They felt what they had done was bad and reported themselves to their pastors. They were subsequently placed on discipline by the State Overseer.
After some period, reporting that they have repented, the courtship was allowed to commence again. As preparation for the wedding was going on, it was discovered that they again engaged in acts contrary to the laid down procedure by the marriage committee of the church.
This is after they had been disciplined earlier and warned not to engage in acts that will impact negatively on their proposed marriage. When the Marriage Committee put a direct question to them based on the latest development, the man accepted their error.
It is important to note here, that the church stands on holiness and members have been consistently admonished to “abstain from all appearance of evil.
It is not also true that the parents pleaded with the pastor to wed them on the 8th of June 2019. The summary is that they behaved themselves unseemingly, and were in haste to enjoy the benefits the church and God allow only married couples to enjoy.”
Without debunking the rights of the clerics and religious leaders on their members and followers, it is emphatic to note that it is human to err and divine to forgive.
Taking a cue from one of the Apostle’s of the pious faith, Paul, in his book to the Corinthian’s, in chapter 7:1-2, he writes; Now for the matters, you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife and each woman with her own husband.”
Since the church already has knowledge of the couples immoral acts, as confessed by them and stated that they’ve been forgiven, the church according to the words of Paul, should take appropriate measure to hastily unite them together, in other to further prevent them from continuing in the sin, which is what led to the second fall.
It is further imperative to know that, according to the founder of the Christian faith, Jesus Christ, who was known as one who preaches and practises love, been the foundation of his precepts and laws.
If the followers ascribed to his teachings on love, which simply implies that no one is allowed to place judgement or final verdicts on anyone, then the church should have known that it is not within the ambience of any man to pass verdict or judgement upon anyone.
The erring of the couples once confessed should have been allowed to pass, except if they had been caught by the church without them pleading guilty to the acts, which would have served as a just course to suspend or even terminate the marriage if need be.
King David, in his written account, says it this way; “Then I confessed my sins to you. I did not conceal my wrongdoings. I decided to confess them to you, and you forgave all my sins.” (Psalm 32:5).
Religious leaders must be able to differentiate between constructive criticism that stems on building their followers, to become better from destructive ones, that demands of their followers, a perfection that is seemingly unattainable as humans will always err as long as he remains in the flesh.
If disciplinary actions must be taken, it should be done to uphold, strengthen and encourage their members to become better and not to crush them and their spirit.
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