Flirting is a way of striking up a conversation where you attract the other person using your skills and charm. If you plan on attracting someone while you are in a conversation with them, then you are flirting with them already.
The concept of flirting is a very broad and subjective topic, often with unclear boundaries that can wreak havoc on a relationship if both parties are not on the same page. Most people flirt with one another to get them to sleep with them, some people end up flirting unintentionally. However, most people do not consider flirting as cheating. They think it is normal for them to talk to someone in a flirty way. The question arises, is flirting cheating when you are in a relationship? Keep on reading to find out
When flirting is cheating
Cheating entails any behavior or activity where you are emotionally compromising the commitment that you have made to someone else, regardless if sex is involved or not. Being physically attracted to someone else is not necessarily considered cheating, but acting on those attractions and pursuing conversation or communication with that purpose is a slippery slope that certainly isn’t doing your current relationship any favors. Despite the fact that flirting and cheating are somewhat subjective in definition, both can be detrimental to a relationship.
To be clear, unless there is a mutual understanding between you and your partner, sex always equates cheating, even if you aren’t emotionally involved with that person. Although flirting is gray and has a lot of unclear edges, intercourse is a very black and white issue. Typically, there is no debate in whether or not sex has taken place, and trying to defend oneself by saying that there was no emotional connection is ludicrous.
If the girl or the guy you are dating end up viewing your flirty conversations how would they react? Would they get hurt and shocked? Are you forced to hide your conversations because it may hurt them?
If this is the situation, then you must change. You cannot create healthy and long-lasting relationships by hiding stuff from your partner. Letting your significant other assume that only they are getting your love and attention when this is not the case is a very unfair and mean thing to do. It is advised that your best come clean and let your partner know about what is going on.
Take your partner’s reaction into consideration
The more you hide your conversations and let it be a secret, the more it will hurt your partner and affect your relationship when they find out. Letting your partner know about your flirting can be a very scary thing to do, but their reaction can often be worse. If things have been going on well, then you might find a way around this problem. If things do not go well, you may end up losing your significant other for good. The way you expect your partner to react will let you know whether you are cheating or not.
If the way you are flirting can make your partner go crazy and leave the relationship, then it is cheating. If you expect your partner to laugh it off, then it is probably not cheating. Whatever the situation is, avoid hiding your conversations from your partner.
When flirting is not cheating
If you have not been with a girl for very long and have only gone out with her for a date or two, then you can easily flirt with other women, and this goes for girls too. However, no matter the time span, if you make your relationship official, you can no longer flirt. If you have been dating a girl for some time now and have crossed the line of casual dating to a proper exclusive relationship, it is important that you sit down and have an open talk with your partner. The sooner you have the conversation with your partner the easier and stronger your relationship will be.
Apart from flirting there is also another kind of cheating that most people are not aware of. This kind of cheating can be very devastating for a relationship and is known as emotional cheating. Emotional cheating is having deep conversations with another person, sharing your deepest emotions, your secrets, being mentally naked and vulnerable to someone else.
An example of this that you come home and let your spouse know everything is fine, but your online friend knows every problem that occurred in your day- this is emotional cheating. It is important for a relationship that you be as authentic and honest as you can so that your companion does not feel left out.
The slope of flirting
Sometimes flirting can be brushed off easily as harmless fun. But this harmless fun can take a wrong turn of its own. If the person you are flirting with shares a drink with you and with all the tension building up between you two, one drink can lead to a little kiss and soon into a big mistake. If you know that you being physical in a relationship will not be tolerated by your significant other, then avoid facing such situations. The ideal thing to do in such circumstances is to stop flirting before getting carried away.
The best answer to whether flirting is cheating or not is; any conversation that you have to delete and hide from your partner is considered cheating. Honesty is the base of every successful and healthy relationship. If you are not honest with your partner, then you will end up having a weak relationship.
Make sure that you talk to your lover about flirting and get their opinion, if you can work out an arrangement then good but if you cannot then avoid flirting. Keep in mind that once you start flirting with your partner may too, so you better have the guts to tolerate it all.
When (Exactly) Does Flirting Cross the Line?
Some people might be wondering, What’s the big deal? It’s just flirting. The truth is, flirting can be a gateway that leads to more promiscuous activity which isn’t so harmless in terms of commitments and fidelity. This is precisely why couples should clearly and honestly define a mutual understanding of flirting: what actions and behaviors are acceptable? Which ones are not, and why would these behaviors be hurtful or harmful in an existing relationship?
Although each couple may have a different understanding of what flirting is and where it may cross the line, this is a neutral starting point for hashing out the subject with your significant other.
Flirting crosses the line when the actions becomes covert or so emotionally connected that you pursue said behavior over furthering your committed relationship. Making arrangements to spend time with this ‘crush,’ sending suggestive emails or text messages, or intimate, physical behaviors are clearly crossing the line of acceptable if you are in a committed relationship with someone else.
Flirting is a topic with a lot of gray area, so it is up to you and your significant other to decide together which aspects can be made more clear and distinct.
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