When you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship, you are probably questioning your reality. You may start to have doubts about what you said or did because your partner or loved one tries to manipulate you. They may deny hurting you, and tell you that you’re “losing your mind” or “making it up.” Because of this, you may start to believe that your feelings are invalid – that’s a terrible feeling, and it’s not true.
Feeling insulted and wounded, Never measuring up, Walking on eggshells. If these statements describe your life or relationship, it is likely you are being emotionally abused. They invalidate, manipulate and gaslight you.
If you have been hurt by someone close to you, it’s likely you are bothered by feelings of shame. Maybe you find that it is hard to stop beating yourself up over small mistakes you make. How bad does it have to get before you walk away from something that’s hurting you?
Maybe you can’t stop thinking about the way you look to other people. Maybe you feel bad about yourself and you are not even sure why. Just because you feel shame doesn’t necessarily mean that you have done anything wrong or that there is anything wrong with you.
If you have been abused by someone you are close to or depend on, you may be affected in particular ways. One way you might be affected is that you may feel a lot of shame . When you feel shame, you may focus on beliefs that you are bad or flawed, rather than noticing that someone is hurting you. In addition to feeling shame, people who are hurt by someone close to them are also more likely to forget that the abuse happened or “dissociate” or feel spacey. Forgetting, spacing out, and feeling shame may all be different ways in which your mind tries to protect you from knowing about abuse, or at least knowing how bad it is or was.
Prince EA, in the video below talks about why it’s not your fault that those things happens to you and why you should detangle your self from the abuser.
Emotional abuse is one of the hardest forms of abuse to recognize. It can be subtle and insidious or overt and manipulative. Either way, it chips away at the victim’s self-esteem and they begin to doubt their perceptions and reality.
I know sometimes, it can be so hard to get out of any toxic relationship or environment, but you have to look within and find the courage to STAND UP and the courage to walk away from somebody that is no longer serving you. It’s a full time job to fix yourself. plus you can’t fix them. All you are doing is giving them more permission to abuse you. You have so much to offer this World. So much courage, so much beauty, so much strength, it’s not your fault but it’s your responsibility to move on and get up from that SPOT THAT’S HURTING YOU.
You are not a victim, you are a survivor!