CHECK OUT! 10 Real And Achievable Relationship Goals You Should Aim For

Here are relationship goals every serious couple, the ones who hope for the very best kind of relationships should have:

 

  1. To support his/her dreams

 

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If you truly care about someone, you’ll care about their dreams, hops aspirations and things that set fire to their eyes and stoke their sincerest passion. Aim to know what that thing is in your partner and be sure to show maximum support for it.

 

  1. To grow together

 

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The point of a good relationship is to have someone who amplifies your strengths, and assists you in outgrowing your defects. If you are dating someone who is weakening you in areas you were once strong and making you worse in areas you were already struggling in, they are not relationship material.

 

  1. To always be there

 

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Emotional intelligence is such a big deal for the growth and continuous existence of relationships, too. So learn, and be prepared to help your boo through emotional rough patches and the numerous times when they’d just need you to be there for them emotionally.

 

  1. To be faithful

 

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You can add loyalty and honesty to that. There is a scarcity of these in people these days and relationships and marriages are suffering for it. Faithfulness and commitment are real goals to strive towards and you should give your best to being that man or woman who has all of it.

 

  1. Forgive each other

 

 

Great relationships are built by two people who know how to forgive time and time again. You can’t have a good relationship if you keep grudges. So always create an atmosphere of forgiveness in your relationship.

 

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STRANGE BUT TRUE!! How Mermaids Abduct Woman For 1 Year, Return Her To Same Spot Later [Photos]

A 52-year-old Indonesian woman identified as Nining Sunarsih, who was on vacation in Sukabumi, West Java, when she was swept away by a strong wave on Citepus Beach, has been found. The lady who was presumed dead by authorities when she was washed away by the strong wave in January last year, turned up alive on the same beach – 18 months later. At the time, eyewitnesses said they heard the woman screaming and waving her hands for help but they were too scared to go in to help.

 

 

Search and rescue operations didn’t find any sign of her until a week after the tragic disappearance when a dead body was discovered in the area. They asked Nining’s family to come and identify the body, and even though it was reportedly in very bad condition, her relatives were convinced that it wasn’t her, because it lacked a distinctive birthmark on the abdomen, and the fingernails looked very different.

 

 

It was gathered that her family who never gave up hope of finding her alive, returned to the same beach on Saturday after her father began having mysterious dreams and found her lying unconscious on the sand, wearing the same clothes as on the night she vanished. The family began searching in the early evening and at first were unsuccessful, but discovered Sunarsih around midnight.

 

 

She was discovered by her sister – who was one of the people who had watched her disappear. According to reports Sunarsih was unconscious, fully clothed, and around 500m (1,600ft) from where she initially vanished.
Sunarsih has since been taken to hospital, where doctors say her vital signs are stable and she is expected to make a full recovery. It was further gathered that she has since regained consciousness and has been able to eat and drink, but is so far unable to talk – meaning nobody has been able to question her about what happened and where she has been.

 

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3 Rare Finds Proving The Ocean Is A Weird Place

Deep under the waves, the ocean is not just a dark place. The underwater landscapes hold ancient events, mysterious animal behavior, and vast gardens of glass and octopuses. Each contributes new facts and riddles to this incredible aquatic world. However, the ocean also has a scary side—from wrecking the weather on land to blowing giant holes in the seafloor and countries.

1 The Loudest Fish

 

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One can be forgiven for not associating fish with noise. More often than not, they are mute. One species, however, can be very vocal during reproduction. The Gulf corvina is a large, silverfish about the size of a snowboard. During spring, when the tides and lunar phases are perfect, shoals migrate to the Colorado River Delta. The event is an unforgettable one and worth seeing. When corvinas gather, they pack together in a sheet that can span for miles. In 2014, scientists followed the spawning shoal and used underwater equipment to record their sounds.

The loudest noise captured during the study hit a deafening 150 decibels, which is a record among fish. Additionally, the sound also rated among the loudest ever recorded underwater—and very capable of damaging the hearing of other creatures, including sea mammals. Researchers believe that male corvinas are responsible for the chorus. Similar to frogs and crickets, the boys produce a throaty croak to attract females.

“The blob” is not as adorable as it sounds. This massive anomaly—a patch of hot water in the Northeast Pacific—affects the weather in extreme ways. The blob was blamed for the persistent California drought (2013–2015), Seattle’s hottest year (2015), and the freakish polar vortex intrusions of two winters (2013–2014 and 2014–2015).In 2018, the return of the oceanic hot spot was caused by unusually warm weather in Alaska during the fall. Though the blob is famously crabby, it remains hard to predict the phenomenon’s moods.When it made another appearance in 2016, the spot showed many signs of troubling times ahead but faded away before anything could go wrong. The latest manifestation leans toward weakening in the same way, but even the experts admit that nothing is certain when it comes to the blob.Either way, Alaska has already suffered notable damage. The southeastern rain forest is in the grip of a persistent drought, and snowfall showed a record delay.

Rectangular Iceberg

 

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In 2018, an unusual photo turned an iceberg into a social media star. A far cry from the usual mountain-shaped behemoths, this icy wonder was almost perfectly rectangular and flat.As it turns out, this shape is not unknown to scientists. Called “tabular icebergs,” they form during calving (when pieces dislodge from a parent iceberg).

The rectangles commonly occur after an ice shelf extends too far and then breaks off at the tip. This gives them a geometric shape. A whopping 90 percent of the tabular iceberg remains hidden underwater. This unseen part is usually perfectly angular, too. In this case, the sheet came from the Larsen C ice shelf on the Antarctic Peninsula. Even though these floating tabletops are known to science, this one was unusual. For once, it was almost short enough to be a square. The size of the object remains unknown. But judging from the image, it could be as long as 1.6 kilometers (1 mi). 7 Largest Octopus Nursery

Most octopuses live solitary lives. This made the discovery of about 100 nesting together near Costa Rica a sensational find. However, this nursery paled in comparison to another found by accident in 2018.Off the coast of California, marine biologists steered a remotely operated vehicle at a depth of 3.2 kilometers (2 mi). The goal was to study an underwater volcano called the Davidson Seamount.As the vehicle turned a corner, it happened across the world’s biggest deep-sea octopus garden. The species was Muusoctopus robustus, and over 1,000 huddled together. Nearly 99 percent were females guarding eggs between the volcano’s cracks.

Their unprecedented conglomeration is not the only unanswered question about the Davidson group. Researchers do not know why the water appears to shimmer around the octopuses.One theory suggests that heat is behind the glitter, which could explain why the creatures gathered at Davidson to successfully incubate their eggs. Since the volcano is extinct, the heat could be coming from an unknown source. 6 Canyon That Removes CO2

3 The Porcupine Bank Canyon

 

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Ths is an underwater trench marking the border of Ireland’s continental shelf. In 2018, an effort was made to map the sheer cliffs and contours. Near the canyon’s edge, the research drone discovered something amazing: The underwater trench removed carbon dioxide (CO2) from the atmosphere using two species and death. Porcupine Bank came fringed with corals snacking on dead plankton. While dwelling near the surface, living plankton grow by packing their bodies with CO2 from the atmosphere.

When they die, they sink down into the ocean, taking the CO2 with them. In turn, the corals eat the plankton and use that carbon to build their own structures. When the coral perishes, it tumbles deeper into the canyon. Researchers found a massive amount of dead coral inside the canyon, all with CO2 locked up inside them. Sadly, this process cannot stop climate change. But at least, it showed that nature has ways to remove some of the greenhouse gas from the air.

 

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Tiwa Savage, Wizkid and the dangers of opposite sex friendship

To have a bestie of the opposite sex, especially while in a relationship has always been a polarizing, scandal-creating controversial issue.

And if its long history is anything to go by, it is unlikely that it will stop being a problem for lovers even in generations to come.

While an opinion piece advises against such relationship for the unneeded drama it often brings to relationships, Tiwa Savage and Wizkid’s bestie relationship has added another layer to the conversation; some extra context to what we already have and know.

Tiwa Savage and Wizkid say they are nothing but besties, in spite of all the scenes we’ve seen them in, the wild pool of opinions they’ve stirred and all the media circus they’ve created in recent memory – most especially with the release of the music video for Wizkid’s “Fever.”

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Tiwa Savage, Wizkid in ‘Fever’ music vide

There are elements of true friendship to be gleaned from what they are doing. What’s a friend for if they are not coming through and collaborating with you to do great things in your career? What’s a bestie for if they are not congratulating you, egging you on to be more and pushing and helping you to do more? We see all that in Tiwa and Wizzy, two huge superstars combining star power to a lot of productive, millions-spinning effect. And we love that about the pair.

However, when held up as an example, Tiwa and Wizkid also look to be painting the very picture that makes people really scared when their partners have a close friend of the opposite sex.

Let’s quickly mention here that no one, certainly not this writer, can tell Wizkid and Tiwa what to do with their feelings or how to live their lives. Afterall, these are two mature adults and in fact, parents and on-top-of-the-world celebs. The fact that none of them is in a known romantic relationship at the time of those occurrences, and even at the time of publishing this piece makes it really unwise to judge any of them as if they were.

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Opinions that try to decide how adults should live their private lives aren’t usually welcome by the adults in question.

Regardless, all the sex-tinted things going on between them make the pair’s friendship the type that no one wants their partner to have –  at least, the type that people will be mad uncomfortable if their partner had.

It is really unlikely that we’d have seen this much of their bestie-ship if they weren’t celebs [who need to constantly orchestrate the maddest PR moves in order to sell records and remain firmly in the conversation and stay relevant.]

But we are seeing it and for people who already do not like their partners having besties of the opposite sex, Tiwa and Wizkid, especially after all that palpable sexual energy they displayed on “Fever”, must have provided them one more excuse for why their partners should not have besties of the opposite sex.

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Being friends with the opposite sex is not a bad idea. But with a relationship, everything usually changes. 

Also, those who would normally have no qualms about such arrangement would have likely had [more than] a moment of doubt where their liberal and openminded views on the issue was shaken, rattled to the core.

But here’s the certainty in all of this: whether or not your friend has a bestie of the opposite sex, they would cheat or respect you and refrain from doing so if they choose to.

So, to let your partner keep that bestie, even though this writer has strong reservations about it, is a choice that can be made at your own discretion and nothing else.

UNDENIABLE!! Check out ways to keep your opposite-sex friendship while in a relationship

when you get into a new relationship, it does not mean you have to drop your old friends, no matter their gender.
Relationships that seek to alienate you from your friends are usually flagged as toxic and unhealthy and it’s true. Being in a relationship is not an agreement to reclusiveness. You should still have the opportunity to stay friends with your friends, and to live the type of wholesome, healthy life that likely attracted your partner to you in the first instance. Your partner – male or female – should feel secure enough to allow that.

 

Now that we have gotten that out of the way; the question now is: what is the extent of closeness you can share with friends of the opposite sex when you get into a relationship? How do you navigate those friendships without causing a problem or disruption to your relationship, or making your partner feel some type of way?

The simple secret is in boundaries and respect. When your friends understand that you are now in a relationship and they respect the new partner, there will be no room for misunderstanding. When your partner also respects the fact that your friends have a place in your life, he treats them accordingly and lets you have your moment with them.

 

If you really stay faithful to your partner and never leave a space for your partner to suspect that anything is going on, there is no reason why a rational man or woman won’t let you keep your friends and keep other healthy business and platonic relationships that make you happy. In all these things, never forget that your partner becomes the most important to you once he or she gets into the picture. That’s the first rule to keeping the boundary intact.

 

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These are 5 top signs of fake love in a relationship

Is the love in your relationship real, or fake? Because if it’s real then you are lucky, blessed and in a good place.

All you should do is keep growing the love, keep staying truthful to each other, keep drinking a lot of water, and just keep treating each other in all the good ways that will allow the relationship thrive further.

On the flipside, fake love is not something anyone would want to live with. Sadly, it is exactly what some people have in their relationships. If the relationship is based on anything different from a genuine willingness to see the other person flourish in every sense of the word, if it is based on something fleeting and temporary, then it is likely fake.

To really know that the love in your relationship is fake, here are the signs you’ll see:

1. They’re emotionally distant

In a relationship, fakers have a tendency to be non-communicative. They’ll provide little to no substance to what’s going on in their life. They’ll also make excuses why they “couldn’t” communicate especially when it is a little difficult to do so.

The difference between them and someone with genuine love for you is the extra effort needed to reach out when it’s not so easy.

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They won’t let you in no matter how hard you try. 
2. Always willing to throw in the towel

Conflict happens in every relationship. It demonstrates a level of care which partner have for one another.

That said, every conflict demands a resolution. If you’re the only one trying to resolve any conflict or problems that arise, it’s often a telltale sign of emotional detachment and this of course, is a major sign you’ll find in people who have got only fake love for you.

They really won’t care whether the relationship works or fails.

3. They don’t meet you halfway

Are you always the one to plan things? Check on the other person? Take responsibilities and all that? If so, what concessions, if any, is your partner making? Where’s the effort on their part?

Relationship and compromise are two peas in a pod. A lack of effort is a universal sign of disinterest – and a relationship is no different.

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Many times, when someone does not love you, you’ll know in your heart of hearts that it’s fake.
4. Unconcern

An authentic relationship sparks feelings of passion for each other. You’ll be curious, concerned, involved, etc in all that the other person does.

Someone who continuously acts indifferent isn’t engaged, likely detached, and unfit – not to mention unworthy – of a real relationship.

5. That gut feeling

Many times, when someone does not really love you, you will know. There’s usually that sixth sense, that gut feeling in the pit of your stomach that keeps pricking you.

Add this to all the signs that you will see, and the picture is clear that this babe or that guy does not really love you. They’re only with you because they have no option, or for the money or some other fake reason. Be honest with yourself. Are you wasting your time? Money? Energy?

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This is how to keep opposite-sex friendships while in a relationship

Undeniably, when you get into a new relationship, it does not mean you have to drop your old friends, no matter their gender.

Relationships that seek to alienate you from your friends are usually flagged as toxic and unhealthy and it’s true. Being in a relationship is not an agreement to reclusiveness. You should still have the opportunity to stay friends with your friends, and to live the type of wholesome, healthy life that likely attracted your partner to you in the first instance. Your partner – male or female – should feel secure enough to allow that.

Your partner should be cool with you having friends but with well established boundaries. 

Now that we have gotten that out of the way; the question now is: what is the extent of closeness you can share with friends of the opposite sex when you get into a relationship? How do you navigate those friendships without causing a problem or disruption to your relationship, or making your partner feel some type of way?

The simple secret is in boundaries and respect. When your friends understand that you are now in a relationship and they respect the new partner, there will be no room for misunderstanding. When your partner also respects the fact that your friends have a place in your life, he treats them accordingly and lets you have your moment with them.

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The first rule to keeping the boundary intact is understanding that your partner is your number one priority. 

If you really stay faithful to your partner and never leave a space for your partner to suspect that anything is going on, there is no reason why a rational man or woman won’t let you keep your friends and keep other healthy business and platonic relationships that make you happy.

In all these things, never forget that your partner becomes the most important to you once he or she gets into the picture. That’s the first rule to keeping the boundary intact.

Here are questions to ask yourself before sleeping with a friend

Friendship with members of the opposite sex remains a touchy subject. People still want to know if it is possible to really be friends with someone of the opposite sex without emotions or physical attraction setting in.

While it is absolutely possible for that to happen, it is also well-known that many people end up sleeping with, or falling with people they once called friends.

And here’s the thing about sex: whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, it changes thingsand oftentimes, in ways we couldn’t have predicted or imagined.

So if you have the urge to sleep with that friend, here are questions you need to ask yourself – and answer as honestly as possible!

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Don’t act on the urge to sleep with your bestie unless you have count the cost and come to terms with what you stand to lose. 
1. Why do I want this?

If you ask yourself this question and you have no other reason aside from curiosity and a desire to satisfy an urge, you may want to take a pass. It is better to do it with someone else than this friend of yours.

2. Do you know that things will definitely change?

It’s either one of you is catching feelings somewhere down the line or someone is feeling used and awkward. Whatever the case, things are surely not going be the same again.

You need to give this some good thought before you let that sex happen.

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3. Are you prepared to lose the friendship?

This is one serious consideration to be made before you go all the way with a friend. The freedom, the ability to tell each other everything and just be cool with each other will no longer be easy to come by.

4. Are you both on the same page?

It is very important to know if the sex is just sex or if you both want to explore something more serious after that.

Get on the same page so as to avoid the awkwardness, bitterness and resentment that often comes from unmatched expectations.

5 signs of a weak man in a relationship

A truly weak man is someone that you carry through life. Rather than an equal relationship, you do all the dirty work while he’s just along for the ride.

Though it may bring out your nurturing side, you’ll soon tire of it and leave it for a responsible man.

He doesn’t listen

Every committed man in a relationship must give a listening ear to his partner. He must listen to his partner’s needs, suggestions and take her advice in matters regarding their relationship.

This doesn’t mean they’re going to agree, but they’re going to listen to what their partner has to say and go from there.

He doesn’t stand up for you

A guy must stand for his woman his friends who are verbally-bashing you or some random guy at a bar. They’re supposed to be your support system. A weak man will ignore it because he doesn’t want to get involved or will join the others and tease you. But that isn’t a real man at all.

You make all the plans

Whether it is a dinner date or friend’s wedding, he doesn’t take any active role in the planning. A weak man is someone who lets everyone else work for them. They don’t want to be a leader, they want to be a follower and be taken care of.

You clean up after him

He leaves his clothes lying around or has food wrappers everywhere, but the thing is, though he can clean up his own mess, he doesn’t. Instead, he waits for you to do it. You clean up after him in more than a physical sense.

If he has unpaid bills or needs an excuse to bail an event, you’re the one doing his dirty work. It’s like he’s a giant baby.

Don’t Wait To Be Dumped! Check Out These 5 Signs That Says He’s Done With You

At one point or another, almost everyone has been in a relationship where they are just over it. It could be a friendship, a family connection, or a romantic connection that has just gone sour, but whatever kind of relationship it is, you know it’s just awful.

 

In most cases, when we get fed up with a person, we tend to want to walk away. From what I’ve seen, though, most do not. When this happens, people will either wait for the relationship to die naturally or wait until it’s more convenient for them to leave the other party behind.

 

The funny thing about being fed up with someone is that you often don’t realize how well you hide it. Or, rather, I always found it strange how often people are blindsided when they hear that their partner is done with them. Are you worried that you’ve angered them off to the point of no return? These are 5 signs he’s tired of you and is totally fed up.

 

  1. Any sort of affectionate display or discussion seems to annoy him, repulse him, or anger him.

 

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When someone is really sick of a person, they don’t want to see that person. They don’t want snuggle up to that person and they may even be just on the verge of snapping at that person. This is because they are sick of seeing them or even having to speak to them. If you’ve become an obvious source of annoyance, he’s probably fed up of having you around.

 

  1. He regularly jokes about leaving you, hitting you, or killing you in your sleep.

 

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I’m a firm believer that a person’s jokes tell what is really on their mind. If he’s regularly joking about hitting you or leaving you, then there’s a good chance that he’s really pissed off with you to the point that he’s regularly thinking of hurting you.

 

  1. You feel like you have to tiptoe around him in order to keep the relationship going.

 

 

A good way to figure out if he’s fed up with you is to check your gut feeling. If you get the feeling like you need to handle everything with care just to keep him from leaving or exploding, then it’s pretty likely that he’s fed up.

 

  1. He used to complain or try to talk about issues in the relationship, but now, he’s stopped.

 

 

Most girls I’ve met see the sudden end to complaining as a good thing, but it’s often a sign that the relationship died. If a guy is trying to talk to you about something that is seriously bothering, he still believes that the relationship can by salvaged.

 

If he stops trying to discuss it or attempt to make it better, it’s because he’s done trying to make it better and because he’s checked out of the relationship like last night’s hotel stay.

 

  1. His demeanor is best described as icy.

 

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Ever have to deal with someone that you hated? If so, you already probably knew that it’s really hard not to be cold towards them. If he’s got an icy disposition towards you these days, it could be one of the signs he’s tired of you.

 

Notice any of these signs? Don’t be sad, your one true love is just around the corner.

 

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